"I think I feel so much more for Madd and Zee because they're survivors, they came through so much. Shiloh seemed so privileged from the moment she was born. I have less inclination to feel for her...I met my other kids when they were 6 months old, they came with a personality. A newborn really is this...Yes, a blob! But now she's starting to have a personality...I'm conscious that I have to make sure I don't ignore her needs, just because I think the others are more vulnerable."
- Angelina Jolie in the new issue of U.K. Elle
I'm not even sure how to articulate what it is about this quote that galls me so. Mostly, I don't like that her children are being assigned status within the family. Love is love, is love, is love. (And this perspective is coming from someone who is adopted themselves.)
No saint here, when I was pregnant I obsessed that I wouldn't love my daughter as I loved my son. And there are times when I need to remind myself that I've had more one on one bonding time with him versus her. But I certainly don't "have less inclination to feel for her." And if I did that would be a topic for me and my therapist - not an international magazine the child may read someday. Ugh.