Supporting The Troops

I watched Oprah this morning and was (again) bawling as she had troops that had just returned from Iraq after a 7 month tour on stage. Some of them were near tears as they talked about wanting to see their families. She then had the families run out and hug, cry and kiss their soldiers. It was overwhelmingly emotional. Oprah said something like "Whether you agree on the war in Iraq or not, we ALL support our troops."

And it got me thinking...


If I was working as a marketing director and in a board meeting where people were yelling about what an idiot my boss was and how asinine the projects I spent 8 hours a day working on were and then said, "But we support you" I would want to give them a big old middle finger salute. Now don't get me wrong I am not endorsing this war on terror. But I do believe that though we need to keep speaking up and speaking out on our views we have to be ever mindful. So careful. And so damn respectful, of the fact that people are giving up their lives for this war.

Maybe I'm naive. Maybe it's the squeaky wheel that gets the grease and in order to have any authority about your position in the war you need to rant and rave. But I hope not. I hope there is a way to stand up for what we believe without throwing around insults and slurs when men and women are dying and giving up their families. I would imagine the soldiers need to feel that they are fighting for something, for some greater good. And I wouldn't want to take that away from them or the ones they've left behind. So while I don't agree with this war, I'm not going to call our President names (though I might want to) or say the war is "f'king stupid" when people are working for it in a way I'm sure as hell not brave enough to do.

20 comments:

Elizabeth said...

I sure wish SOMEONE could answer your question--I'm sure there are many people (myself included) who feel EXACTLY like you do.

aimee / greeblemonkey said...

I think this may be my first time commenting, but wanted to say - good post. Because I ponder this all the time. I do not support the war, I don not believe in it, am scared by it and the damage it will cause - HOWEVER. I *do* believe in the people over there giving their hearts and souls for what they believe in - which happens to be, in turn... me.

It is a very, very fine line.

Lotta said...

Elizabeth - thanks for speaking up.

Aimee - I'm glad you commented!

Angelina said...

You are probably doing most of what you can do already: vote, sign any petitions for senators or congress members that come your way that are making an effort to end the war, check in to Moveon.org to find out what help they can use.

I feel sorrow for all the families here in the States who've lost someone they love to this war. (The count is around 3,000 the last I heard.)

But I also feel sorrow for the 300,00 men, women, and children that our troops have killed. Their families are going through the exact same thing.

One thing I know for sure, whether you are quiet or loud about your beliefs, you should definitely be heard.

A.J.Reams said...

Wonderful post! I agree with you and the above posts.

The only thing that you can do is write your congress men/women. Tell them that you want the soldiers sent home. Every thing that was asked of the soldiers was accomplished. It's not their fault that our President keeps changing their mission. Our men and women in the service are not policemen. It's time for the Iraqis to police their own nation.

Be proud of our troops and lets bring them home.

Just a side note: My uncle, a marine, was killed in the first gulf war in 1991.

Fran said...

My husband works with vets who have PTSD and because I appreciate the lives these men and women leave and the lives they live when they come home, I am adamantly against the war. I do think it's wrong for us to be there, it was wrong for us to go. That doesn't make me any less appreciative of the work those men and women are doing risking their lives, I just want them back home.

I think the only way we are going to get them home is through political action like the election we just had. No insults, no slurs, just voting with the war in mind.

I also think supporting the families at home is the best way to show you care. Whatever you can do, even if it's just asking someone you know who has a solider overseas how they are doing.

Judi said...

Holy crap...... wtf! Who says "our troops" have killed 300,000 people? WTF! Let's talk about the evil ones over in the middle east who believe it's their destiny to kill others because their God supposedly tells them to, oh and that they get lots of virgins if they kill themselves in the process. Not to mention the Mom's that strap bombs onto their little ones backs in the name of glory. Please, for the love of God, never, ever, ever say that our troops have killed those people! You should be able to figure out by the news reports that it's suicide bombers and those jackasses that set IED's that have killed that many people. This has been going on for as long as they have been alive......... I'm sorry but I think that since we have stepped in over there..... women and children have been released from the Hell their leaders have had them living in, don't even think for a second that this has just begun because the U.S. has stepped in. WTF! Watch the news...... any channel, Fox, CNN or whatever you choose and use your brain and stop screwing with our Troops minds by saying crazy crap like that. Ashamed is what I am of my fellow Americans and their statements like that. Has any other terrorists come to our nation since 911 to harm us? HMmmmm....... oh, that's right, they haven't! Maybe they know that this President isn't allowing that to happen. Can you tell that I'm pissed at this? I hope so. Judi

Esmerelda said...

I've dated two guys whose lives have been turned upside down because of active duty. Every day ( I live between Balto and DC) I see soldiers and their families and am reminded of what is going on.

What we should all do is educate ourselves. Make sure you know what you're talking about. They're giving their lives, and THEY really believe in what their doing. So I say I don't know enough to have an opinion. I don't have the time or the bandwith to fully wrap my head around it.

I trust that all these wonderful professional military people who have conciously made the decision to do this for me have their heads screwed on straight. Even if their leader is less than I'd prefer, he's surrounded by very smart people.

If either of the guys were still in my life, I'd make sure THEY responded. They were both very passionate and articulate about their beliefs and involvement. I'm proud to know both of them. I'm no expert in war, and they promise not to tell me how to do my job.

Lotta said...

Judi - The suicide bombers, the brainwashing of children. It's horrid. No defense for that action. My post was more about respecting the soldiers by not throwing out slurs about the President or the war. But I do think that for or against it, everyone should be heard.

daffa said...

i stumbled across your blog through a link on a link of a friends blog - blogosphere, how i love thee...

i'm an ozzie gal, and have been against this war since the get go. unfortunately i have been known to say nasty things about our prime minister who sent our boys over there, and about your president who "we" followed. i don't think we should have gone. and i most certainly don't think we should still be there.

but things have changed for me in the past year. see, in december i married a (US) soldier. and at the end of july he will deploy. this has become personal to me.

thankyou for this post. it's great to know that people are thinking about our boys and girls over there...

daffa said...

i moved to clarksville, TN. my hubby is posted at fort campbell (KY/TN)... i have a new blog, a peek inside the bubble (daffado.blogspot.com)

daffa said...

thankyou...

though i can accept no credit for bravery.

yerdoingitwrong said...

I feel exactly like you do, too.

Judi said...

HI Lotta...... I have no problem with your comments........ none at all. I was this comment that set me off:

"But I also feel sorrow for the 300,00 men, women, and children that our troops have killed. Their families are going through the exact same thing."

That right there is horse crap. I'm sorry if I upset you as that wasn't my intention, I promise. Why would she say our troops are responsible for all of the Iraqi deaths? Our guys have not killed 30,000 people, or however many she was saying. Those are the type of comments that hurt our troops......... not your comments.

No one likes war..... I don't care who you are. I hate the fact our precious troops are hurt. My daughters Godfather has spent over a year there as a medic and God Bless him. He has a wife and three kids. My Dad spent over 23 years in the Navy. I don't like it either, but......... what I'm feeling is support as I think we are a kinder, more generous nation that is on a mission to help those poor people and to keep garbage from harming us again. They're out there whether we want to believe it or not.

I hope like Hell our troops come home soon but not to comments that are misleading and hurtful. Your comments didn't bother me in the least and I'm sorry if I led you to believe that. I enjoy the dook out of your blog and like reading the respectful way you write about your beliefs. Keep on truckin', Judi

Angelina said...

That figure came out of a newspaper. Definitely not on the front page.

Not all Arabs are evil suicide bombers. In fact, very few of them are extremists.

There are always two sides to a war. And always both sides suffer losses.

I feel sad for the losses both sides have experienced. That's all I'm saying. I would like the losses to end.

Angelina said...

Update- although my local paper reported Iraqi deaths to be at around 300,000, after doing some digging I find that the numbers that everyone is reporting are under question. One group claims that over 600,000 Iraqis have died, and on the other end of the scale the low figures are at 45,000-59,000. What most reports (some from BBC, some from CBS, some from ABC)agree on is that the U.S. (and specifically President Bush) have been under-reporting those deaths.

More reports agreed that the true number was probably closest to around 100,000. And the majority of the number of Iraqis killed have been civilians, and not by suicide bombers. The majority of them have been killed by gunfire, and by bombs dropped by the U.S.

I've read my news now.

Thank you Judi for suggesting I read more about it.

Judi said...

Out of respect for Lotta and for our troops..... I will leave this discussion as it is. Judi

Lotta said...

Angelina and Judi - I think you are both brave to express your opinions. It's sad to lose lives it's also scary to watch the brainwashing that goes on with Iraq children. Heck, any children for that matter. I've seen Jesus Camp and it freaks me out too.

I love you both for coming and for speaking up. Thank you!

Mama Luxe said...

Thank you for thinking about our troops. Super Dad is active duty and he joined because he has a firm belief in service.

Whether I agree with your politics or not, I would rather have you engage respectfully with the issue than just drive around with a faded yellow ribbon you forgot was there.

I think the "solution" is a long term one: we must all bear the burden of our freedoms and prosperity. If the war directly affected more of the nation, it wouldn't be an academic question...we would be more informed and vigorously but respectfully express our opinions. We wouldn't be talking about "someone else," we would be talking about ourselves, our children, our parents, our spouses, our neighbors.

Karly said...

Lotta, Just wanted to tell you that I gave you a Thinking Blogger Award for this post! You can steal the button from my site if you like.