Loose Ends

Per my last post, and your good advice in the comments, I'm going to take a summer vacation from Mom O Matic. I'll pony up to the keyboard in Sept. and see what happens then. Son is starting kindergarten this year and I want to enjoy every minute of this summer playing with him before I lose half of the time we hang together come fall. And let's face it, there are only so many things I can focus on at one time.

The Etsy store will carry on and I hope you will all still visit it. Really, visit it. Frankly, without the $30 a month I earn from Blogher ads my family's high falut'n lifestyle will need some supplementation.

So here's my loose ends post;

Final Thoughts Blogher08

Debbie snuck into the speaker reception to say hello on my first night. She was wearing this beautiful retro 50s dress and looked gorgeous. I was so excited to see her! And then...she spoke.

Debbie: Hello. I am quite pleased to see you again Lotta. If I may so, you look lovely this evening.

Me:What the hell? Debbie? You were supposed to have madcap ADHD adventures with me! (Gasp) Are you...are you properly medicated?

Debbie: I'm ever so confused as to what you speak of Lotta.

Thank God we were able to get Debbie properly served by the time we saw Jenny in the bathroom at The People's Party. So wonderful to hang out with Debbie and listen to her brilliant mind in person. And stare at her cheekbones with envy. Adore her.

Jenny, my awesome sweet friend, had a hell of a weekend. The neutral-as-I can-be gist is that Heather Armstrong of Dooce talked in the closing keynote about how she struggles with people writing unkind things about her online. And one of the examples she gave was something that Jenny had written on The Bloggess. Jenny was mortified that Heather misunderstood what was meant to be a humorous nod to her status as an icon, so she stood up to apologize. That's it.

The irony is that there are now people writing negative, speculative and nasty things about Jenny in response. This is absurd. You are attempting to show support to Heather, who was talking about how it hurts her to hear unkind comments, by saying unkind comments about Jenny? Lord but you all are slow on the pickup.

Jenny knows what I think and that she has my support and empathy and whatever else she needs. The rest is up to these two ladies to work out. Or not.

Moving on...I was so happy to see all of you that I enjoy reading and emailing. I hope you know who you are cause I am just too damn tired to link. And I hope you will email me if you end up in Chicago so I can prove that not all my friends are imaginary.

Commercialization Session at Blogher08:

Danielle - Thanks so much for being gracious about my broad generalization of PR firms and their bad form letters. Indeed, there are many firms that work hard to be thoughtful. Hopefully the rest will catch up.

Mommies - Do not be embarassed if you choose to support your family (or yourself) by making money with your blog. Do it in a way that you can live with and that's honest in your disclosure to your readers. Remember to value what you've created and don't be afraid to be appropriately compensated for sharing space on it.

And on that note....

Clip-on Baby Blanket sent me one of their super soft blankets to check out. I said I would because they make a really nice version that clips to a wheelchair. But even as a mommy, this would have saved a lot of people the view of my hinder when I picked the baby blanket off the floor. Good stuff.

And I'm sorry BlogHer ads but if I have to return this blanket you're going to have to come pry it from daughter's sticky hands yourself. I don't have the stamina to fight with her over pink minky fabric just now.


Thanks for listening. Let's keep our fingers crossed that I have more Ikea stories to tell come fall. Have a great summer.


Call me.

Keep on keeping on.


jo! said...

dear lotta~

I'm going to miss your blog! I read it all the time. Moving around the world to Alice Springs, Australia hasn't stopped me. I hope you have a great Summer and I can't wait til you make your glorious return to blogging!


jakelliesmom said...

I adore you, dear Lotta. I hang on your words, and will miss them as you enjoy your hiatus. I wish you all the best in blogging and whatever.


Crystal said...

I'm going to miss your blog! Don't forget to come back in September.

Kathi D said...

Well, I don't know Jenny or Dooce, but after reading about this elsewhere, I went to the original Jenny post and it seemed really clear to me that it was a compliment, not a knock. I don't have to be neutral, so I will just say that piecing it together and not having been there, mind you, that Dooce seems to have just been RUDE.

I can almost feel what Jenny must be feeling, to know that her innocent and humorous words were twisted and bent and used against her. It sucks.

Kathi D said...

P.S. Gonna miss calling on you every day!

Jenny, the Bloggess said...

I miss you already and I love you. Be prepared to get more emails from me than usual until you get your ass back here. I can't go that long without my Lotta fix.

Jen said...

Oh Lotta...I think I will double medicate in order to get through the summer without you. I know I hardly ever comment but I check for my "daily lotta" every morning. I hope that you have a kick-ass summer with your son! Come back soon...

and for the record I love Jenny/The Bloggess!

Little Monkies said...

Ah, sister. I am being very selfish in this moment and wanting to scream "DON'T GO!!!" but it's because I need a little Lotta in my life everyday to make it all click.

But you take a break, love on your peeps and come back when it's time.

I hate the girldramashit and that's why I have a wary relationship with all things blogher. When are we going to figure out how to quit pummeling each other. I read Jenny's original post and thought it was funny and very Jenny and if DOOCE was more familiar with Jenny's stuff, she would have thought it funny too. Or, maybe she was just being bitchy. Who knows. But, man, why clutter your life with the highschool drama?

I think you rock, Mama, and I think of your inspiration all of the time. You know where to find me if you need anything.

Hugs to you,


Suzanne said...

You're going to feel so refreshed after your break-from-blogging. We'll all still be here when you get back I promise.

Re: the Dooce incident

Well, it seems that there is emerging an alternate meaning for the phrase "Dooced" and she seriously needs to get a grip. It's obvious she didn't even read the post in question. Sad, sad, sad that Jenny had to do that.

Anyway, I'm going to be missing your sassy reparte'. See you when you get back.

- Suzanne, the Farmer's Wife

Hetha said...

Have a great vacay with those gorgeous children of yours Lotta! Best wishes.

Miss Jess said...


You're going to be missed by all but I totally respect your desicion to spend more time with your family and take time for yourself for now.

Take care and hopefully we all will hear from you soon!



PamKittyMorning said...

Miss you dearie. See you when you come back, but if you can't.. I understand. xo

jen duncan said...

There ain't no party like my grandma's tea party. Hi! Ho!
Oh they fucking slay me. I can never thank you enough for putting the conchords in front of me, so that I can appreciate their true genius.
So. As someone who's been around the block a time or two, and who's been listening to Wayne Dyer a LOT, and is pretty objective where I sit today; all that crap that went on at blogher, and does to a great extent in the daily blog posts, is EGO. If we could all just stuff ours in a drawer and get on in a *real* way (ie, with nothing to prove or live down) life would truly be grand. Honestly, none of us would probably bother with the internet. We'd be too involved (and enjoying it) with our *real* lives.
3 or 4 years ago I was in an online group of 23 gals who really got tight. We went through divorces, babies, one even died! I, being the HERE I AM LETS BE FRIENDS FOREVER! naive dork that I am travelled all over the US wanting to meet some of these gals in person. When *we* started talking "Let's all rent a huge-ass beach house for a week in the summer!" I'd say 90% of us (them) were smart enough to beg off (no money, no time, no permission, yadayada). I guess my point is; with the majority of society, all havin' to drag their big fat egos around, this blogging thing is best left as it started; a bunch of individuals sitting alone at their computer screens and only showing each other what we want to.
I hope you have a great rest of the summer.

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Katrina said...

*sniff* *sniff* Can't *sniff* type through *Snoooorrrrrt* the tears! You better email me! I will have to find strange and unusual ways to make you laugh now...be prepared.

Love you and Jennie too!

Mamma said...

I'll miss you my dear, but that doesn't mean I'm going to let you go.

Enjoy your summer.

Muffy Willowbrook said...

Lotta -

Enjoy your summer with Son & Daughter and indulge in a well deserved break.

You were my blogging inspiration so I hope to see/hear from you again in the Fall.

Heart pumps big Lotta Love,

lildb said...

my adhd is in full-on monster mode right now, so you've got your wish.

my wish is that you wouldn't leave. but i'm selfish.

i understand about son. and about the other stuff.

and i support you a gazillion x 100000. and damn if it doesn't hurt.

and you so nailed it about Jenny. JENNY RULEZ.

Jessica said...

As the supplier of my children's favorite chicken nuggets would say, You Deserve A Break Today. Your endless emotionally-sensitive and shrewd posts will be missed, but you will be all the better for it. And it's really all about you, not us. Enjoy the break!

Lori said...

Take the time to enjoy the rest of your summer and your kids!! You and your writing will be missed, but I will still be checking in daily to see if you posted yet (can't break my routine of favorites).

amy said...

i will miss you! your stories about trying to find clothes for blogher were so good- my sister and i had SO many laughs with that post- we completely agreed. happening to see the pics of you at blogher- i think you did great with the clothes slelection. i have loved reading your blog for about a year now- thank you for your honesty about your weight issues. i will look forward to that bold number next to 'mom o matic' in my bloglines :)

Velveteen Mind - Megan said...

Amen to the blogging hiatus. I took one that lasted more than 4 months. Didn't miss it one single day.

Then one day I sat down to try to write in my journal and no one responded. I shook the book and it still didn't answer me back.

Only then did I come back to my blog.

As it is now, I maybe post twice a week. Yet it still works.

We got to talk for maybe 20 seconds at BlogHer, but it was a thrill to meet you. I swear, next year I am going to make a schedule of 15 minute blocks in which I make it mandatory that specific people talk to me. Get ready, because if we are both still blogging, you'll be at the top of that list.

JMom said...

Enjoy each and every day! We'll miss you and will be here when you come back!

Anonymous said...

Enjoy your break, and I hope you do come back! I love your blog!! (and have never commented before, nothing like threatening to never come back to pull people out of the woodwork, eh?)

workout mommy said...

I only talked to you for a few minutes last weekend, but it was great to meet you!

Enjoy all the moments with your little one this summer and I hope to read you back in the blogging world in the fall.

Take care! :)

Undomestic Diva said...

Just gettin' to know ya... but totally understand. Truthfully, after reading what happened between Dooce and The Bloggess at BlogHer, it really puts a bad taste in one's mouth. Seems a bit unfair and, I don't know... unnecessary?

Anyway, hope to see you back in the Fall.

Julie Pippert said...

Enjoy your break. Without guilt, because we'll still be here, or I will be, and God love you for your wise words about not being too shy to make money for your family if you need to from your blog.

kawaii crafter said...

What a shame you're going to take a break from blogging when I just discovered your blog (we met at Blog Her at the craft swap) and now after reading your post I'm feeling totally guilty because my son's entering Kindergarten too and I can only wonder if I'm wasting away the time I have with him, sigh

I have to agree with you about the keynote with Dooce, I don't know Jenny but I lurk on her site and enjoy reading her posts, I agree with all you said


Chocolate and Steel said...

oh no!!!! I will miss your posts. You crack me up so much!!! I just caught up on a few of your posts and I am still laughing at the huge pile of beaver hair in the toilet. Have a wonderful summer with your kids.

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Angel said...

"The irony is that there are now people writing negative, speculative and nasty things about Jenny in response."

Know why I love the internet? People are allowed to have opinions. Know why I hate it? Because sometimes those stupid opinions lead to many problems and drama that is just hurtful and misunderstood.

I have heard a lot of Dooce drama at Twitter and through Google blog alerts. What I gathered is that people hate her for making money on her blog?


I make money from my blogs. That is a portion of my work at home income. I am not afraid to admit it! I didn't realize it was a bad thing, either.

In the end, I hope you enjoy your break from blogging, I will miss your updates. I read you when I have the time. Ever since the interview I did with you a short while back, I have been stopping in. You're interesting in a way that many other bloggers don't quite capture in their own blogs.

My daughter is starting Head Start this year, so I DEFINITELY understand and I am going through daughter withdrawal over the thought of her going to school. So between moving and spending the rest of my summer enjoying the little time we have left of her home all the time, I definitely understand how that feels. Good luck with the Kindergarden! :-D

Suzanne said...

I check in just to see how you're doing. I miss your fun and your humor. I hope you're enjoying your summer and that the drama that was....is no more.

- Suzanne

calamitykim said...

hope you are having a great summer! I miss you! I hope your meds are working and the kids are well! PS,
I got carpal finger getting down here to leave a comment...sheech! no seriously, I love the Flight of the Concords....with all my random heart...
love and stitches,(the sewing kind)